WHAT IS HIGH CONFLICT DIVORCE?
It only takes one person to make it high conflict.
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LET'S GO OVER THE SIGNS
Your spouse craves control, power, and dominance of situations.
They have an "all-or-nothing" attitude.
They are incapable of managing their emotions in a healthy way.
They exhibit extreme behaviors that could be fearful to you and your children.
They have a severe lack of social awareness.
They undermine your parenting.
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WHAT DOES A HIGH CONFLICT INDIVIDUAL LOOK LIKE?
DEALING WITH A HIGH CONFLICT INDIVIDUAL IS CHALLENGING
A high conflict individual is more interested in engaging someone in conflict rather than looking for ways to resolve issues. A high conflict individual (HCI) often projects their feelings onto others. This can look like misplaced anger and a fixation on blaming others rather than taking the responsibility for their own actions and behaviors.
HCI's have abusive tendencies: emotional and physical. This can be in the form of gaslighting, manipulation, anger outbursts, and reflection. Oftentimes, this type of behavior can lead to you as the spouse, feeling trauma bonded and incapable of leaving this toxic individual.
If these traits sound familiar, it may be time to take that first step and get some help.